Osmosis and in the name of business

So a couple of nights ago sitting around the dining room table with Jules Crew and Dahunter before going to bed I jumped into one of there always interesting and hi level conversations based around dating incredibly hot women and a lot of the inner game that makes it possible. The conversation was based around an aloofness, but that doesn't do the topic justice. We were talking about being non-result oriented v 2.0. Taking the idea and putting it as deep into ourselves as we can, being non-reactive and also just not giving a fuck of how the outcome was. And the freedom that comes along with it.

These guys weren't just talking basics they were getting down to affirmations of self satisfaction and being fulfilled with there lives. With this conversation in the back of my mind along with 6 beers and a shot of patron and then a jager bomb (big ups to Quantum , Ozzie and my boy Oleg for a great night and a hand full o drinks) I was ready to do a little talking. Being out with my sales team and one of our vendors for a little wine and dine I was put on deck. Couple of the guys noticed 3 girls in a both I couldn't see them from where I was sitting, from what we I could make out she was well equipped to feeding babies :). My buddy from my team says, "hey go get these girls over here." I walk over and jump right into it. I started off with talking about 2 of them double fisting (2 drinks per person) and jumped right in little banter and there were alright but nothing to bring back to the table. One of the seasoned Vendors came over and I introduced him, he noticed that they looked better from a distance and we moved on after a little more chit chat. The one alpha of the group maybe a 7.5 was totally into me and it would've been an easy close but aren't they all (no.. no there not, I mean yes I'm awesome......).

Got back to the table the four of us were sitting there drinking our beers, then a cute waitress sat behind us (with a little rail in between the two tables/sections) the guys of the group automatically start showering her with props and put all there attention on her. I'm sitting there with my back to her trying to get the focus of the group, then one of the younger vendors says to me "man don't u hate it when they think there hot shit and to good" I go not really all you have to do is neg them a little and knock em down a notch or two and bring them back to reality.

I preceded to do just what I preached (not a common occurrence , becoming more frequent) the conversation at the point was for us 3 guys to go to Blue Note and check out some of the Chicago soul as these other guys were from Boston. There saying "i'll go if she goes" she's all like whatever, I turn to her as I start my sentence "she defiantly doesn't do anything exciting or having to relate to culture" and then again turn my back to her. Well she put her fork down and and I could feel her eyes on the back of my head and responded with "Like what do you that is so exciting and interesting?!!" As I smoothly turn again and look her in the eyes and respond with
"well I race cars and motorcycles and occasionally play poker for thousands of dollars, I don't know if that's exciting or not?"

She response with "oh you know poker would you teach me?

Can you be ruthless and patient? I ask

Oh yeah no problem.

Well I don't know you might be a lost cause, but I might give you a shot, teach you a couple new things. Here put your number in my iphone.

Proceeded to go out for a smoke, small talk a business man, say a couple words of wisdom and a little light banter. The quote of that moment was. Waking up and going to sleep everyday and doing what you want in the middle is what success is. He then bought me a jager bomb and then I proceeded back to the group and that was the end of the night.

All for work, made some new contacts, will break into some new accounts, and maybe i'll call that hot (9) Lithuanian girl sometime if I feel the need.

Confidence and not giving a fuck of the outcome is incredibly deadly.

That's what I got

So I used to update my blog a lot, a lot of personal stuff and i was very open with my day to day, talking about sticking points, my workout schedule, and random things I was thinking about throughout the day. For some reason or another I started to be very shy in what I wrote and how open I was in my blog. I blame a little of the reason that people at work know that I do social consulting and for some reason I was not proud of what I do. After much deliberation I have gotten a handle of what I do and what I am proud of.

Throughout this last year and a half I have grown as a person, and during that time I have helped many around me grow and become happier which in turn brings me great pride in what I have done. Let me brag for a second and talk about some of the lives that I have influenced in a positive way.

One is a shy friend who would never talk to anyone and would always be called out on his shyness, never kissing a girl or having a real relationship with them. He and I somewhat grew up together(since junior high) learning the ways of social interaction this last year. I would open sets and he would watch and sometimes partake in the set. Throughout this time we would go out very often as I played poker as he did also as a profession and our time was ours to do what we wanted with.

Catching up to today, he now hangs around some of the most attractive women in the Chicago land area. He has high value and an insane frame and has gotten to the point where everyman that he meets will be in envy. How did he do this, my teachings of course..... Jk it was that he found what worked for him, fell into his own style and blew it up from there. Building on all his strengths and tightening up his weaknesses he went from dud to stud. Yeah a little more working out, going out a little more, and dressing better were all steps in becoming the man that he was always supposed to be.

I do not know what I did besides show him what not to do as I approached and failed miserably in the beginning of my quest for social authority hundreds of times. I'm not sure if my semi fearless approaches and ability to grow gave him some type of inspiration or what, but I am happy to see him grow as a person.

Another good friend of mine hasn't really been successful with women yet but now has control of many other parts of his life, work, piece of mind, and financial security along with enjoying what he does. I take little if any credit for this, but I will say that positive reinforcement and continuing to help him narrow his wants and abilities so that he can thrive in a position that he could grow of digress. The women thing is still an issue but i believe that is coming in it's own due time as his inner game is growing by the day and inner confidence and worth will let him believe that he does deserve beautiful women in his life and that he should have them. This will be my mona lisa, to get him to open sets and start taking what he wants from life.

Throughout working on socialskillz and becoming one of it's major influences I have learned a great deal, but what is the best part of all of this, is the changes it has made in many of the members and the people close in my life (many of the same) and the progression into leaders instead of followers. Talking with someone in the beginning and seeing them now as a completely different person is something that always give me joy. To be a part of transforming a persons life even in a minor way is an incredible feeling.

Besides all this there is a lot I still need to learn and I would like everyone to strive and do everything they can to become and do what they want. I did not say it would be easy, actually it's going to suck a little while, lots of hard work, little reward, but if u keep ur face to the grinding stone you will chisel out a great new life with no boundaries.

I want to keep this blog going, as it helps me determine where I am at and where I need to go, along with feedback (if anyone every reads this) I believe that this blog will be a great tool to help me accelerate my social growth.

Thanks,

Kmon